“…the real work is paying attention when you are having uncomfortable feelings and that will reveal what the needs are.”

In this episode of We Can Do Hard Things, Abby, Glennon, and Amanda talk to expert Nedra Glover Tawwab about exploring the elusive concept of boundaries in relationships. Nedra clarifies the difference between boundaries and control, emphasizing that healthy boundaries create stronger, more respectful connections. Abby shares her struggles with people-pleasing and how setting boundaries would improve her life. They also discuss the concept of compromise within boundaries and how unconditional love can coexist with self-care and respecting your own needs. Many of us fear how others will react when we set boundaries and this episode dismantles our worries for the impact it may have on our relationships.

At rooh, we highly recommend this episode because:

• We often hear about the concept of setting boundaries, but have difficulty incorporating it into our lives without affecting those around us. Nedra talks about how it is possible to both be respectful of others in our lives while setting expectations for what we need in our relationships.
• Abby and Glennon explain how they often feel like they are being needy when they set boundaries and try to figure out what “needy” really means. Nedra gives us great insight into what the connotation of needy means to her, how it is important to acknowledge that everyone is needy to a certain extent, and the empowerment of recognizing that.
• We often struggle to set boundaries because we are afraid of how other people will react to us. This episode gives us a clear plan on how setting boundaries can actually enrich a relationship and bring clarity to ourselves and those around us.